“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”
This quote reminds me of my mixed faith marriage. At first I was so scared to do anything (ie take action) from my faith transition. I was stuck in inaction and it lasted for quite a while. I then started to wade into some action and I kind of flailed around trying different things (bringing it up to my husband with a great deal of trepidation, getting angry at some things I did not agree with, exploring more nuanced positions). I messed up A LOT. I said the wrong thing, I didn’t listen well, I expected full and complete understanding from my spouse (when I couldn’t even give it to myself).
In the mess-ups I was learning and figuring out this new mixed faith marriage thing. The mess-ups were so valuable. The mess-ups helped me learn about me and my marriage. The mess-ups led to getting help and that led to learning even more and really transforming myself and my marriage into something better. Mess-ups became the way to a better marriage.
Are you ready to get some help for your LDS mixed faith marriage? Coaching is a powerful tool to help you learn how to have a great marriage. You have messed up a lot (good for you) and now it is time to learn from those mistakes and make this marriage work.
Reach out to me and grab one of my free calls I offer each month. I only have a few. It is your chance to talk to a coach and talk through your marriage and see if coaching is what you need. It can change your marriage in a fundamental way (for the BETTER!).