Marriage Remodel

 We are in the middle of a huge and extensive remodel project of our house. We have a mid century modern ...

Painful Conversations

 Do you keep on having the same painful conversations over and over about tithing or church history or cultural norms versus ...

CHANGE: A faith transition means change

Change can be disorienting for both spouses. Here I want to talk about how to handle change whether you are the ...

Blame and Responsibility 

It is not uncommon you and me to blame our partners for our emotions and and not take responsibility for them. ...

This is so hard!

I don’t even know how many times I have told myself this about my mixed faith marriage. It is so hard ...

Not an ideal marriage 

Do you believe that a mixed faith marriage is not an ideal marriage? If you do, you are not alone. I ...

How to communicate without fighting

Does it seem like every time you talk about church it ends up in a fight? I had a client come ...

Walking on Eggshells

I have heard from my clients that if feels like they are walking on eggshells when it comes to talking about ...

How to stay together when you don’t go to church together

I was raised being taught that it is better to marry someone in your religion. It is better to go to ...

COST of Doing Nothing

For so many of us – Nothing is more important than our family and the core of that family is our  ...

Fear

Fear This is such a powerful emotion. It arises a lot in my life and mostly about my future.  -Will this mixed faith ...

Decision Making

Two things are commonly agreed to challenge a marriage: mixed faith and remodeling. We are doing both. Decision making is paramount ...

People Pleasing

People don’t always associate people pleasing with a mixed faith marriage. People pleasing can run rampant in these types of marriages. ...

Will this ever get better? 

There was a point in my mixed faith marriage when I was sure that it was never going to get better. ...

I am ruining everything. 

I am ruining everything. This can be a common refrain for those who have It may prompt the following: I don’t ...

I am right and they are wrong

There is a problem that many people have that causes them to be miserable, especially in their marriage. They think they ...

I loved you more when you were active

A faith transition can change the balance in a marriage. It can “mess up” roles and expectations and schedules and traditions. ...

Family Photos

We just has our family photos taken. Four kids, two adults and one  dog. It was quite the event. I (who ...

Hard Conversations

This past week my husband and I both read the Elder Holland talk that was given to BYU faculty. He is ...

Starting a Mixed Faith Marriage – video

Managing Your Spouse’s Emotions – Video

Messy Marriage – Video

Communicating About Kids – Video

Mirror Effect

Our spouses play many important roles in our lives. They can be our best friend or biggest advocate, our most painful ...

Emotion v Logic

Many couples claim that one partner is logical and the other is emotional (and that this is a problem). Usually the ...

Emotional Responsibility

A good wife makes her husband happy I want to help my husband feel better. Happy wife, happy life. Those sound ...

Love Feel Amazing (NOT Terrible)

Love feel amazing. When we are feeing love we act lovingly.  Often we get loved mixed up with other emotions. We ...

How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think.

Many clients come to me and ask, “How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think. I ...

Boundaries

I have heard their is a need to establish boundaries in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. This may be true and ...

How to Feel Better About Your Mixed Faith Marriage

Our relationship we have with others is just the accumulation of thoughts we have about them. Our thoughts about what they ...

Consequences

You are probably aware of long and short term consequences. When you eat a cupcake in the short term you get ...

Selfish – Video

Progression, Change & Perfectionism – Video

Us versus Them Mentality

There is a way our brains process and categorize people and events in our lives that I call the  ‘us versus ...

Courage

If I could name one ESSENTIAL emotion to make a mixed faith marriage work I would name: Courage. It takes courage ...

Baby Blessings, Baptism, Ordination, Temple Weddings

What to do when your kids hit on of the many rites of passage in LDS culture? Do you let them ...

Inner Work for Outer Success

Most (okay, really all) the really effective work we do in our marriage is inner work. We think it is work ...

Common Worries For Active Spouses Around Parenting 

I am sure there are tons of worries out there. Here I will highlight two I have seen personally and professionally.  ...

Parenting Series # 4- Worry

I have covered so far: #1- basic parenting resources – fully vetted #2- How to deal with a spouse teaching things ...

Unconditional Love  and Respect

My husband and I have an ongoing discussion about unconditional love and respect. Suffice it to say we would like more ...

I can’t believe this is happening to me (and other unhelpful thoughts)

Have you found yourself thinking these thoughts about your faith transition or your spouse’s faith transition (and marriage transition)? I can’t ...

It Only Takes ONE

I can’t improve my marriage because my spouse is not interesting in seeking help. I hear this a lot. Here is ...

Divorce in NOT an option

This used to be how my husband and I approached our marriage. We were taught this and it sounded good, right? ...

Three Necessary Things to have a GREAT Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage

To Resign or Not Resign?- VIDEO

Home Study Course For Your Mixed Faith Marriage – VIDEO

Relationship Tool for Your Mixed Faith Marriage – VIDEO

What to do when the kids want to leave too? (VIDEO)

Parenting Series #3: What To Do With The Kids Post COVID

Church has been a pretty low key affair for the past 13 months in our house. We still do not have ...

Parenting Series #1: Parenting in a Mixed Faith Marriage – Some Basic Resources

We have had a request for a list of resources to help teach kids values and character from a more secular ...