5 Common Questions

To Resign or Not Resign

Sometimes when a spouse steps away from the church this can take many forms. There is no one way. Here a ...

Parent’s Worst Fear

The worst fear of many parents is that their kids leave the church. It is sometimes the case in a mixed ...

Home Study Course

Maybe you have been in a mixed faith marriage for a while, maybe it is brand new territory, in either case ...

Fear Based Decisions

I am so afraid so often. I am afraid of my husband being done with me and my faith transition. I ...

How to deal with your spouse teaching or talking about things that you do not agree with?

This usually comes up in the context of teaching about gospel topic such as the law of chastity, modesty, priesthood, leadership, ...

Afraid of what others will think?

My ancestors are pioneers. We are talking about covered wagons traveling from Far West to Salt Lake City. My extended family ...

What to do if your marriage has been neglected?

There was a time when we were so busy strengthening our family we forget to strengthen our marriage. The two are ...

How to influence you spouse  (It’s not what  you think)

In your marriages you may find you want to be able to influence your spouse. To be a someone they listen ...

Connection after Disconnection

Here is what happened. We were disconnected all week. Something was off. I was pretty sure he hated me and I ...

Hierarchy v Partnership

Many marriages are built on a hierarchical model. It works for some people to a certain extent. It provides clear roles ...

Communication Tip

I want to give you a little tip on communication. One way to improve communication is to remove the obstacles to ...

It Takes Practice

The other day a YW leader came by to drop something off my my kids (as all YW leaders will do). ...

Mormon? Unitarian? Agnostic? Atheist? 

A faith transition can mean many things for your marriage. Sometimes the transitioning  spouse will keep attending church but just not ...

Selfish

I think one of the single biggest fears we bring into our mixed faith marriage is that we are being SELFISH. ...

Change and Progression

Are you someone who freezes when faced with change in your marriage. Often the response to change is  – this can’t ...

Marriage Remodel

 We are in the middle of a huge and extensive remodel project of our house. We have a mid century modern ...

Painful Conversations

 Do you keep on having the same painful conversations over and over about tithing or church history or cultural norms versus ...

CHANGE: A faith transition means change

Change can be disorienting for both spouses. Here I want to talk about how to handle change whether you are the ...

Blame and Responsibility 

It is not uncommon you and me to blame our partners for our emotions and and not take responsibility for them. ...

This is so hard!

I don’t even know how many times I have told myself this about my mixed faith marriage. It is so hard ...

Not an ideal marriage 

Do you believe that a mixed faith marriage is not an ideal marriage? If you do, you are not alone. I ...

How to communicate without fighting

Does it seem like every time you talk about church it ends up in a fight? I had a client come ...

Walking on Eggshells

I have heard from my clients that if feels like they are walking on eggshells when it comes to talking about ...

How to stay together when you don’t go to church together

I was raised being taught that it is better to marry someone in your religion. It is better to go to ...

COST of Doing Nothing

For so many of us – Nothing is more important than our family and the core of that family is our  ...

Fear

Fear This is such a powerful emotion. It arises a lot in my life and mostly about my future.  -Will this mixed faith ...

Decision Making

Two things are commonly agreed to challenge a marriage: mixed faith and remodeling. We are doing both. Decision making is paramount ...

People Pleasing

People don’t always associate people pleasing with a mixed faith marriage. People pleasing can run rampant in these types of marriages. ...

Will this ever get better? 

There was a point in my mixed faith marriage when I was sure that it was never going to get better. ...

I am ruining everything. 

I am ruining everything. This can be a common refrain for those who have It may prompt the following: I don’t ...

I am right and they are wrong

There is a problem that many people have that causes them to be miserable, especially in their marriage. They think they ...

I loved you more when you were active

A faith transition can change the balance in a marriage. It can “mess up” roles and expectations and schedules and traditions. ...

Family Photos

We just has our family photos taken. Four kids, two adults and one  dog. It was quite the event. I (who ...

Hard Conversations

This past week my husband and I both read the Elder Holland talk that was given to BYU faculty. He is ...

What is it like to have a Life Coach Help your Mixed Faith Marriage – video

Decision Making- Video

Negotiation and Compromise- Video

Tithing- Video

Mirror Effect

Our spouses play many important roles in our lives. They can be our best friend or biggest advocate, our most painful ...

Emotion v Logic

Many couples claim that one partner is logical and the other is emotional (and that this is a problem). Usually the ...

Emotional Responsibility

A good wife makes her husband happy I want to help my husband feel better. Happy wife, happy life. Those sound ...

Love Feel Amazing (NOT Terrible)

Love feel amazing. When we are feeing love we act lovingly.  Often we get loved mixed up with other emotions. We ...

How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think.

Many clients come to me and ask, “How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think. I ...

Boundaries

I have heard their is a need to establish boundaries in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. This may be true and ...

How to Feel Better About Your Mixed Faith Marriage

Our relationship we have with others is just the accumulation of thoughts we have about them. Our thoughts about what they ...

Consequences

You are probably aware of long and short term consequences. When you eat a cupcake in the short term you get ...

Selfish – Video

Progression, Change & Perfectionism – Video

Us versus Them Mentality

There is a way our brains process and categorize people and events in our lives that I call the  ‘us versus ...