Mess Ups
“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long ...
Read MoreParenting in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
I talk to my clients a lot about their kids. I am a marriage coach, but kids are often the result ...
Read MoreTug of War Over the Kids
In my own home and with my clients) a sort of tug of war to win the hearts and minds of ...
Read MoreWhen Your Spouse is Disappointed
I used to be uncomfortable with my spouse’s disappointment or anger or sadness. I used to think things like: -I can’t ...
Read More3 Tips for a Mixed Faith Marriage (Mormon or NOT)
I recently talked to a protestant (never mormon) friend and she was telling me about her daughter who was dating a ...
Read MoreTo Resign or Not Resign
Sometimes when a spouse steps away from the church this can take many forms. There is no one way. Here a ...
Read MoreParent’s Worst Fear
The worst fear of many parents is that their kids leave the church. It is sometimes the case in a mixed ...
Read MoreHome Study Course
Maybe you have been in a mixed faith marriage for a while, maybe it is brand new territory, in either case ...
Read MoreFear Based Decisions
I am so afraid so often. I am afraid of my husband being done with me and my faith transition. I ...
Read MoreHow to deal with your spouse teaching or talking about things that you do not agree with?
This usually comes up in the context of teaching about gospel topic such as the law of chastity, modesty, priesthood, leadership, ...
Read MoreAfraid of what others will think?
My ancestors are pioneers. We are talking about covered wagons traveling from Far West to Salt Lake City. My extended family ...
Read MoreWhat to do if your marriage has been neglected?
There was a time when we were so busy strengthening our family we forget to strengthen our marriage. The two are ...
Read MoreHow to influence you spouse (It’s not what you think)
In your marriages you may find you want to be able to influence your spouse. To be a someone they listen ...
Read MoreConnection after Disconnection
Here is what happened. We were disconnected all week. Something was off. I was pretty sure he hated me and I ...
Read MoreHierarchy v Partnership
Many marriages are built on a hierarchical model. It works for some people to a certain extent. It provides clear roles ...
Read MoreCommunication Tip
I want to give you a little tip on communication. One way to improve communication is to remove the obstacles to ...
Read MoreIt Takes Practice
The other day a YW leader came by to drop something off my my kids (as all YW leaders will do). ...
Read MoreMormon? Unitarian? Agnostic? Atheist?
A faith transition can mean many things for your marriage. Sometimes the transitioning spouse will keep attending church but just not ...
Read MoreSelfish
I think one of the single biggest fears we bring into our mixed faith marriage is that we are being SELFISH. ...
Read MoreChange and Progression
Are you someone who freezes when faced with change in your marriage. Often the response to change is – this can’t ...
Read MoreMarriage Remodel
We are in the middle of a huge and extensive remodel project of our house. We have a mid century modern ...
Read MorePainful Conversations
Do you keep on having the same painful conversations over and over about tithing or church history or cultural norms versus ...
Read MoreCHANGE: A faith transition means change
Change can be disorienting for both spouses. Here I want to talk about how to handle change whether you are the ...
Read MoreBlame and Responsibility
It is not uncommon you and me to blame our partners for our emotions and and not take responsibility for them. ...
Read MoreThis is so hard!
I don’t even know how many times I have told myself this about my mixed faith marriage. It is so hard ...
Read MoreNot an ideal marriage
Do you believe that a mixed faith marriage is not an ideal marriage? If you do, you are not alone. I ...
Read MoreHow to communicate without fighting
Does it seem like every time you talk about church it ends up in a fight? I had a client come ...
Read MoreWalking on Eggshells
I have heard from my clients that if feels like they are walking on eggshells when it comes to talking about ...
Read MoreHow to stay together when you don’t go to church together
I was raised being taught that it is better to marry someone in your religion. It is better to go to ...
Read MoreCOST of Doing Nothing
For so many of us – Nothing is more important than our family and the core of that family is our ...
Read MoreFear
Fear This is such a powerful emotion. It arises a lot in my life and mostly about my future. -Will this mixed faith ...
Read MoreDecision Making
Two things are commonly agreed to challenge a marriage: mixed faith and remodeling. We are doing both. Decision making is paramount ...
Read MorePeople Pleasing
People don’t always associate people pleasing with a mixed faith marriage. People pleasing can run rampant in these types of marriages. ...
Read MoreWill this ever get better?
There was a point in my mixed faith marriage when I was sure that it was never going to get better. ...
Read MoreI am ruining everything.
I am ruining everything. This can be a common refrain for those who have It may prompt the following: I don’t ...
Read MoreI am right and they are wrong
There is a problem that many people have that causes them to be miserable, especially in their marriage. They think they ...
Read MoreI loved you more when you were active
A faith transition can change the balance in a marriage. It can “mess up” roles and expectations and schedules and traditions. ...
Read MoreFamily Photos
We just has our family photos taken. Four kids, two adults and one dog. It was quite the event. I (who ...
Read MoreHard Conversations
This past week my husband and I both read the Elder Holland talk that was given to BYU faculty. He is ...
Read MoreMirror Effect
Our spouses play many important roles in our lives. They can be our best friend or biggest advocate, our most painful ...
Read MoreEmotion v Logic
Many couples claim that one partner is logical and the other is emotional (and that this is a problem). Usually the ...
Read MoreEmotional Responsibility
A good wife makes her husband happy I want to help my husband feel better. Happy wife, happy life. Those sound ...
Read MoreLove Feel Amazing (NOT Terrible)
Love feel amazing. When we are feeing love we act lovingly. Often we get loved mixed up with other emotions. We ...
Read MoreHow Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think.
Many clients come to me and ask, “How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think. I ...
Read MoreBoundaries
I have heard their is a need to establish boundaries in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. This may be true and ...
Read MoreHow to Feel Better About Your Mixed Faith Marriage
Our relationship we have with others is just the accumulation of thoughts we have about them. Our thoughts about what they ...
Read MoreConsequences
You are probably aware of long and short term consequences. When you eat a cupcake in the short term you get ...
Read MoreUs versus Them Mentality
There is a way our brains process and categorize people and events in our lives that I call the ‘us versus ...
Read MoreCourage
If I could name one ESSENTIAL emotion to make a mixed faith marriage work I would name: Courage. It takes courage ...
Read MoreBaby Blessings, Baptism, Ordination, Temple Weddings
What to do when your kids hit on of the many rites of passage in LDS culture? Do you let them ...
Read MoreInner Work for Outer Success
Most (okay, really all) the really effective work we do in our marriage is inner work. We think it is work ...
Read MoreCommon Worries For Active Spouses Around Parenting
I am sure there are tons of worries out there. Here I will highlight two I have seen personally and professionally. ...
Read MoreParenting Series # 4- Worry
I have covered so far: #1- basic parenting resources – fully vetted #2- How to deal with a spouse teaching things ...
Read MoreUnconditional Love and Respect
My husband and I have an ongoing discussion about unconditional love and respect. Suffice it to say we would like more ...
Read MoreI can’t believe this is happening to me (and other unhelpful thoughts)
Have you found yourself thinking these thoughts about your faith transition or your spouse’s faith transition (and marriage transition)? I can’t ...
Read MoreIt Only Takes ONE
I can’t improve my marriage because my spouse is not interesting in seeking help. I hear this a lot. Here is ...
Read MoreDivorce in NOT an option
This used to be how my husband and I approached our marriage. We were taught this and it sounded good, right? ...
Read MoreParenting Series #3: What To Do With The Kids Post COVID
Church has been a pretty low key affair for the past 13 months in our house. We still do not have ...
Read MoreParenting Series #1: Parenting in a Mixed Faith Marriage – Some Basic Resources
We have had a request for a list of resources to help teach kids values and character from a more secular ...
Read MoreParenting Series #2: How to Deal With Your Spouse Teaching Things That You Do Not Agree With
In my work as a coach for Mormons in mixed faith marriages I am doing a multi part series on teaching ...
Read MoreMixed Faith Marriage and Alcohol
There are many charged emotions and strong reactions with alcohol. People feel very strongly about substances like this. That is OK, ...
Read MoreMarriage Challenges
What is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage? Do you think of the challenges in ...
Read MoreIntimacy and Validation
We sometimes get intimacy confused with something else. That something else is called many things. Maybe you know it as: validation, ...
Read MoreMarriage Roles and Intimacy
Marriages often become a way for us to live out prescribed roles. It can be an easy and simple way of ...
Read MoreIt Only Takes One
I can’t improve my marriage because my spouse is not interesting in seeking help. I hear this a lot. Here is ...
Read MoreDivorce in NOT an option
This used to be how my husband and I approached our marriage. We were taught this and it sounded good, right? ...
Read MoreAND not BUT
Many people new to a mixed faith marriage have been told that it is HARD and CHALLENGING and probably won’t work. ...
Read MoreJealousy
A mixed faith marriage provides all sorts of new experiences. Jealousy might be one of them. Jealousy is a feeling. It ...
Read MoreHow to Process Emotions in a Conversation
Have you ever been flooded with emotions in a conversation? It can cause you to loose focus and become very ineffective at ...
Read MoreWhen Others Are Concerned About Us
It is not the cruel criticism of people who hate us that shakes us from our knowing, it is the quiet ...
Read MoreHow to Handle the Holidays in a Mixed Faith Marriage
Christmas is coming! Christmas is a religious holiday and that can be challenging for some in a mixed faith marriage. Does ...
Read MoreRight or Happy – VIDEO
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Read MoreMixed Faith Marriage Scapegoat – VIDEO
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Read MoreFear and Courage – VIDEO
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Read MoreHow to Teach Kids (Part 4) VIDEO
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Read MoreIntimacy Part II
Marriages often become a way for us to live out prescribed roles. It can be an easy and simple way of ...
Read MoreIntimacy
Intimacy Part 1 of 2 We sometimes get intimacy confused with something else. That something else is called many things. Maybe ...
Read MoreAnxiety
Pretty common emotion these days. It seems to be a pandemic equal to the Corona virus, or worse. it is also ...
Read MorePerspective
My husband and I walk the dog in the neighborhood. Just around the block is a pretty good sized pine tree. ...
Read MoreProcessing Emotions
Have you every been in a conversation with you spouse and you pretty much just say all the wrong things in ...
Read MoreShoulds
There is a Brene Brown quote I love – “Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and ...
Read MoreWhat Ifs
A faith transition can change our close relationships dramatically. So often our relationships are intertwined in our religious practices and when ...
Read MoreStress
Stress – what you feel when you think you cannot have what you want or need. Lot’s of people in a ...
Read MoreLoneliness
Its sadly ironic that loneliness can be a chronic problem in a mixed faith marriage. A believing spouse may be lonely ...
Read MoreUps and Downs of a Mixed Faith Marriage
I live in Michigan. The weather is a permanent topic of conversation. The weather can be such an emotional roller coaster. ...
Read MoreWhat is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage?
What is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage? Do you think of the challenges in ...
Read MoreMy story – Part 1 or 2
My story – Part 1 or 2 Like so many of you, I was born and raised LDS and my family ...
Read MoreMy Story: Part 2 of 2
In this part I will tell you about the mixed faith marriage and how it unfolded for us. As I mentioned ...
Read MoreQuiz
How emotionally resilient are you in your Mormon Mixed faith Marriage? Take the QUIZ to find out. 5- I believe; ...
Read MoreStrengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage – Mini Course
WELCOME! In this course you are going to start on the MOST IMPORTANT part. DO NOT underestimate these tools. I have ...
Read MoreA Great Mixed Faith Marriage is Possible
I was talking to a client this week and she told me she used to believe that all mixed faith marriages ...
Read MoreRituals
As humans we engage in rituals and our relationships are full of rituals. The rituals may be simple like kissing goodbye or ...
Read MoreWHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT CONTROL
Sometimes when things get intense in my mixed faith marriage it is helpful to remember what it is I can control ...
Read MoreGUILT
When my family is at a church event and I choose to stay home I sometimes I have company for these ...
Read MoreHow Do You Handle Change?
A faith transition means change. You are questioning everything. This is actually a good thing. Often we get stuck in thought ...
Read MorePatriarchy
Patriarchy My husband just doesn’t see it. if he does, he does he doesn’t think it is a problem. What am ...
Read MoreEmotional Adulthood
I was driving with my 13 year old daughter and she was asking about what it means to be an adult. ...
Read MoreI Can’t Handle This!
“I can’t handle this.” “This is too much.” These were common thoughts in my mind when I was going thought the ...
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