I am ruining everything. 

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I am ruining everything. This can be a common refrain for those who have It may prompt the following: I don’t ...

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I am right and they are wrong

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There is a problem that many people have that causes them to be miserable, especially in their marriage. They think they ...

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I loved you more when you were active

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A faith transition can change the balance in a marriage. It can “mess up” roles and expectations and schedules and traditions. ...

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Family Photos

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We just has our family photos taken. Four kids, two adults and one  dog. It was quite the event. I (who ...

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Hard Conversations

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This past week my husband and I both read the Elder Holland talk that was given to BYU faculty. He is ...

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Afraid of What Others Will Think? – video

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What To Do With The KIDS???? Part III

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Mirror Effect

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Our spouses play many important roles in our lives. They can be our best friend or biggest advocate, our most painful ...

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Emotion v Logic

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Many couples claim that one partner is logical and the other is emotional (and that this is a problem). Usually the ...

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Emotional Responsibility

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A good wife makes her husband happy I want to help my husband feel better. Happy wife, happy life. Those sound ...

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Love Feel Amazing (NOT Terrible)

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Love feel amazing. When we are feeing love we act lovingly.  Often we get loved mixed up with other emotions. We ...

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How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think.

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Many clients come to me and ask, “How Can I accept them? I don’t respect what they believe or think. I ...

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Boundaries

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I have heard their is a need to establish boundaries in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. This may be true and ...

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How to Feel Better About Your Mixed Faith Marriage

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Our relationship we have with others is just the accumulation of thoughts we have about them. Our thoughts about what they ...

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Consequences

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You are probably aware of long and short term consequences. When you eat a cupcake in the short term you get ...

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Selfish – Video

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Us versus Them Mentality

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There is a way our brains process and categorize people and events in our lives that I call the  ‘us versus ...

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Courage

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If I could name one ESSENTIAL emotion to make a mixed faith marriage work I would name: Courage. It takes courage ...

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Baby Blessings, Baptism, Ordination, Temple Weddings

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What to do when your kids hit on of the many rites of passage in LDS culture? Do you let them ...

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Inner Work for Outer Success

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Most (okay, really all) the really effective work we do in our marriage is inner work. We think it is work ...

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Common Worries For Active Spouses Around Parenting 

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I am sure there are tons of worries out there. Here I will highlight two I have seen personally and professionally.  ...

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Parenting Series # 4- Worry

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I have covered so far: #1- basic parenting resources – fully vetted #2- How to deal with a spouse teaching things ...

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Unconditional Love  and Respect

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My husband and I have an ongoing discussion about unconditional love and respect. Suffice it to say we would like more ...

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I can’t believe this is happening to me (and other unhelpful thoughts)

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Have you found yourself thinking these thoughts about your faith transition or your spouse’s faith transition (and marriage transition)? I can’t ...

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It Only Takes ONE

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I can’t improve my marriage because my spouse is not interesting in seeking help. I hear this a lot. Here is ...

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Divorce in NOT an option

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This used to be how my husband and I approached our marriage. We were taught this and it sounded good, right? ...

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Conflict- VIDEO

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Parenting Series #3: What To Do With The Kids Post COVID

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Church has been a pretty low key affair for the past 13 months in our house. We still do not have ...

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Parenting Series #1: Parenting in a Mixed Faith Marriage – Some Basic Resources

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We have had a request for a list of resources to help teach kids values and character from a more secular ...

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Parenting Series #2: How to Deal With Your Spouse Teaching Things That You Do Not Agree With

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In my work as a coach for Mormons in mixed faith marriages I am doing a multi part series on teaching ...

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Mixed Faith Marriage and Alcohol 

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There are many charged emotions and strong reactions with alcohol. People feel very strongly about substances like this. That is OK,  ...

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Marriage Challenges

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What is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage? Do you think of the challenges in ...

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Intimacy and Validation

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We sometimes get intimacy confused with something else. That something else is called many things. Maybe you know it as: validation, ...

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Marriage Roles and Intimacy

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Marriages often become a way for us to live out prescribed roles. It  can be an easy and simple way of ...

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It Only Takes One

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I can’t improve my marriage because my spouse is not interesting in seeking help. I hear this a lot. Here is ...

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Divorce in NOT an option

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This used to be how my husband and I approached our marriage. We were taught this and it sounded good, right? ...

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AND not BUT 

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Many people new to a mixed faith marriage  have been told that it is HARD and CHALLENGING and probably won’t work. ...

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Jealousy 

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A mixed faith marriage provides all sorts of new experiences. Jealousy might be one of them. Jealousy is a feeling. It ...

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How to Process Emotions in a Conversation

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Have you ever been flooded with emotions in a conversation? It can cause you to loose focus and become very ineffective at ...

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When Others Are Concerned About Us

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It is not the cruel criticism of people who hate us that shakes us from our knowing, it is the quiet ...

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How to Handle the Holidays in a Mixed Faith Marriage

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Christmas is coming! Christmas is a religious holiday and that can be challenging for some in a mixed faith marriage. Does ...

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Parenting and Baptism – VIDEO

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Its time to get help. CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH BROOKE. 

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Parenting Worries (Part 5) – VIDEO

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If it is time to talk to me about your mixed faith marriage – CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CALL!

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Fear and Courage – VIDEO

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Click HERE to schedule a call with Brooke. Its time to do something about your mixed faith Marriage!

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How to Teach Kids (Part 4) VIDEO

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Ready to learn more? CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE A FREE CALL TO TALK ABOUT YOUR MIXED FAITH MARRIAGE.   

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Intimacy Part II

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Marriages often become a way for us to live out prescribed roles. It  can be an easy and simple way of ...

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Intimacy

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Intimacy Part 1 of 2 We sometimes get intimacy confused with something else. That something else is called many things. Maybe ...

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Anxiety

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Pretty common emotion these days. It seems to be a pandemic equal to the Corona virus, or worse. it is also ...

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Perspective

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My husband and I walk the dog in the neighborhood. Just around the block is a pretty good sized pine tree. ...

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Processing Emotions

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Have you every been in a conversation with you spouse and you pretty much just say all the wrong things in ...

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Shoulds

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There is a Brene Brown quote I love – “Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and ...

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What Ifs

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A faith transition can change our close relationships dramatically. So often our relationships are intertwined in our religious practices and when ...

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Stress

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Stress – what you feel when you think you cannot have what you want or need. Lot’s of people in a ...

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Loneliness

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Its sadly ironic that loneliness can be a chronic problem in a mixed faith marriage. A believing spouse may be lonely ...

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Ups and Downs of a Mixed Faith Marriage

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I live in Michigan. The weather is a permanent topic of conversation. The weather can be such an emotional roller coaster. ...

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What is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage? 

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What is the impact of feeling stuck and disempowered in your mixed faith marriage? Do you think of the challenges in ...

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My story – Part 1 or 2

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My story – Part 1 or 2 Like so many of you, I was born and raised LDS and my family ...

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My Story: Part 2 of 2

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In this part I will tell you about the mixed faith marriage and how it unfolded for us. As I mentioned ...

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Quiz

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How emotionally resilient are you in your Mormon Mixed faith Marriage?   Take the QUIZ to find out.  5- I believe; ...

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Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage – Mini Course

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WELCOME! In this course you are going to start on the MOST IMPORTANT part. DO NOT underestimate these tools. I have ...

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A Great Mixed Faith Marriage is Possible

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I was talking to a client this week and she told me she used to believe that all mixed faith marriages ...

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Rituals

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As humans we engage in rituals and our relationships are full of rituals. The rituals may be simple like kissing goodbye or ...

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WHAT WE CAN CONTROL AND WHAT WE CANNOT CONTROL

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Sometimes when things get intense in my mixed faith marriage it is helpful to remember what it is I can control ...

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GUILT

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When my family is at a church event and I choose to stay home I sometimes I have company for these ...

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How Do You Handle Change?

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A faith transition means change. You are questioning everything. This is actually a good thing. Often we get stuck in thought ...

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Patriarchy

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Patriarchy My husband just doesn’t see it. if he does, he does he doesn’t think it is a problem. What am ...

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Emotional Adulthood

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I was driving with my 13 year old daughter and she was asking about what it means to be an adult. ...

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I Can’t Handle This!

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“I can’t handle this.” “This is too much.” These were common thoughts in my mind when I was going thought the ...

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