111. Intention and Impact in a Mixed Faith Marriage
Most of the time our intention is very good in our mixed faith marriage. We want what’s best for our spouse ...
Read More110. Self Care
Self care is a bit of a cliche but also essential. A mixed faith marriage and a faith transition are not ...
Read More109. Marriage on a Pedestal
One of the reasons a mixed faith marriage can be so challenging is because we place our marriage on a pedestal. ...
Read More108. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: Alcohol
Suzette Halterman (@SuzettelHaltermanCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching) continue our conversation on mixed faith marriages. The combined insight of three ...
Read More107. Marriage Advice
Here I share some pretty common marriage advice. A lot of advice is great. A lot of advice is not so ...
Read More106. 4 Pillars of Communication
I want to revisit communication. Here I share what I consider to be the four pillars of communication. 1. Know your ...
Read More105. This is not how its supposed to be
I hear two phrases on the regular in my coaching practice. This is not what I signed up for. This is ...
Read More104. Mixed Faith Mastermind – Connection
Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself are starting a series where we combine our knowledge, expertise and experience to help you ...
Read More102. Suzette Halterman a Couples Expert
Here I interview Suzette Halterman a colleague in the mixed faith marriage coaching world. Suzette is an expert in couples work. ...
Read More103. General Conference
General Conference can be a tense time in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. We used to spend the weekend chilling on ...
Read More101. Hiding in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
There is a cycle I see where we start to hide things from our spouse because we are afraid of judgment ...
Read More100. Let’s Catch Up
For the 100th episode I share how my mixed faith marriage was a huge catalyst for my own self development and ...
Read More99. Projection
Projection or mirroring is a pretty common in relationships and mixed faith marriages. Learning about it and building awareness can help ...
Read More98. Managing v Solving Issues in a Mixed Faith Marriage
There are some issues that need to be solved in a marriage and some things that need to be managed. I ...
Read More97. Future Tripping and a Taoist Story
I share a simple Taoist story that I feel applies to a LDS mixed faith marriage. I have seen clients get ...
Read More96. Sunk Costs in a Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage
Let’s talk about sunk costs in a mixed faith marriage. In this episode I describe a sunk cost fallacy and how ...
Read More95. The Story You Are Telling About Your Mixed Faith Marriage
In this podcast episode I teach a concept from my online course – Loving and Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage. The ...
Read More94. Assumptions and Subtext in Communication
I think it’s not uncommon for 80% of communication to be assumptions and subtext and 20% to be direct and verbal. ...
Read More93. Couple Counseling
In this week’s podcast I talk about my recent experience with couples counseling. I share some general guidelines on when to ...
Read More92. Pendulum Effect
In this episode I describe what I call the pendulum effect in a mixed faith marriage. Often a spouse who has ...
Read More91. Substance Use in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
Alcohol, cannabis, psilocybin and other substances may be new topics of discussion in your mixed faith marriage. These topics can be ...
Read More90. Grief and Trust
As I continue to do my own work on being in a mixed faith marriage I realized I needed to revisit ...
Read More89. Honesty in Communication
A mixed faith marriage opens the door to some pretty serious conversation. Conversations about values, parenting, eternity, etc. In retrospect I ...
Read More90. Interview with Reed Dean on Faith and Relationships
In this podcast Reed Dean (certified life coach) and I discuss how our faith journeys have impacted our relationships. We also ...
Read More91. Interview with Melisa Mons a LGBTQIA+ activist in a mixed faith marriage
In honor of Pride Month I interview Melisa Mons is a LGBTQIA+ activist and ally. Melisa is also in a mixed ...
Read More88. Rocking the Boat
I hear people say all the time that they don’t want to rock the boat. This is often associated with their ...
Read More87. Quiet Quitting
Quiet quitting happens in the workplace but can also be happening in your mixed faith marriage. In this podcast I’ll give ...
Read More86. How to Fight
Fighting can be a huge problem in a mixed faith marriage and it can be an excuse to avoid talking about ...
Read More85. Relationship Bill of Rights
A relationship bill of rights can be a tool you use to strengthen your mixed faith marriage and open the door ...
Read More84. Why I Hate Motherhood and Its Impact on My Marriage
This may not be an easy episode for some of you. However I hear regularly about women who struggle being mothers ...
Read More83. Tools for your mixed faith marriage
Here I share about my newly revised free mini course. It’s been expanded and improved in so many ways. The mini ...
Read More82. I Didn’t Sign Up For This
I didn’t sign up for this is a common response to a mixed faith marriage. In this podcast I give a ...
Read More81. Discrimination
Religious discrimination is not an easy topic but it can have a real impact in your mixed faith marriage. Accepting the ...
Read More80. Emotional Bids
In this episode I talk about why connection in a marriage sometimes decreases after a faith transition. This is often because ...
Read More79. My Mistakes
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my Mormon mixed faith marriage. When we can own our mistakes, we can learn ...
Read More78. The Long Game
I consider a Mormon mixed faith marriage and parenting in a mixed faith marriage to be a long game. What I ...
Read More77. Conflict Tolerance and Conflict Intolerance
A LDS mixed faith marriage means the two partners have a conflict of opinion. Conflict is present. Learning to tolerate conflict ...
Read More76. Advice for Believing Spouses
In this episode I share my answers to 2 questions recently presented to me. They are: (1) What advice do you ...
Read More75. Criticism and Defensiveness Cycle
I’ve seen my clients in a mixed faith marriage struggle with the criticism and defensiveness cycle. In order to break a ...
Read More74. Care, Care Taking and Control
This week’s podcast discusses the difference between care and care taking. Often when we love someone deeply we want them to ...
Read More73. When Your Spouse Disapproves of You
I have heard from my clients that they don’t know what to do when their spouse has a negative opinion of ...
Read More72. Marriage Evaluation
A mixed faith marriage can cause some to question marriage as an institution. It can open up questions about why you ...
Read More71. The Loss of a Dream
A LDS mixed faith marriage often means the loss of certain dreams. There may be many lost dreams: the dream to ...
Read More70. Is it better to be right or happy?
I address a listener’s question about wanting to talk about certain issues in her marriage and wondering if she is wanting ...
Read More68. Trying New Things
A faith transition can prompt one to want to try new things- coffee, alcohol, tank tops, etc. In this episode I ...
Read More67. Chris Rich Interview (Second time around)
Chris Rich is a fellow life coach and a good friend. In this podcast we talk frankly of our stories and ...
Read More66. Uncertainty
If you have experienced a faith transition/crisis you have probably faced uncertainty. Here I talk about one way to frame uncertainty ...
Read More66. New Years Resolutions (for any time of the year)
In this episode I give four tips to help you actually make meaningful changes to your mixed faith marriage this coming ...
Read More65. Simple Tools
I love having tools to use in my mixed faith marriage. They help me show up with more confidence and capability. ...
Read More64. Interview with my Husband Part II
I interview my husband again in this episode. Here we talk about tithing, fasting, getting kids ready for church, tattoos, piercing, ...
Read More63. Emotional Cupcakes
Sometimes we indulge in emotional cupcakes in our mixed faith marriage. These are the little hits of dopamine we get when ...
Read More62. The Holidays
Many wonder how to celebrate a religious holiday if you don’t believe in the same religion. In this podcast I teach ...
Read More61. Role v Relationship
When a marriage is based in roles a faith transition can be very disruptive to the marriage. When a marriage is ...
Read More61. Managing Your Spouse’s Emotions
When we are managing our spouse’s emotions it tends to be because we don’t want to deal with their emotional reactions ...
Read More60. The Angry Phase
In this episode I explore the angry phase in a Mormon faith transition. You may be surprised to learn that it’s ...
Read More59. Defensiveness
Defensiveness is poison for your marriage. Here I discuss how to defend yourself without being defensive. I use real examples from ...
Read More58. Secret To Getting Along When You Don’t Agree About Church Stuff
The issues or sticky points in your marriage are often connected to deeper problems. In this podcast I give you a ...
Read More57. Listener Question- How to manage messages that create shame
Here I answer a listener question who is concerned about messaging their children receive that they consider shameful.
Read More56.Intimacy Part II (Sex)
In this episode I address issues around sex my clients have brought to coaching calls. I offer an exercise to help ...
Read More55. Intimacy (Part I)
Intimacy is not just sex, although sex can be part of intimacy. Here I explore the concept of intimacy and how ...
Read More54. My Spouse Doesn’t Want Me To Teach Things I Want to Teach to the Kids
I have had clients stop teaching their kids and stop parenting in the way they want because they are afraid of ...
Read More53. Parent, Roommate and Girlfriend
We often default to roles in our relationships. Here I talk about three common roles: parent, roommate and girlfriend (or boyfriend) ...
Read More52. What if the Mixed Faith Marriage is Not the Problem?
In the episode I share some common but unhelpful approaches to a mixed faith marriage and then offer a radical approach ...
Read More51. Conflict Resolution
Conflict is part of any relationship. Here I give some concrete ideas on how to develop your conflict resolution skills and ...
Read More50. Essential Elements of Communication
Here I break down four skills you need to be a good communicator. Communication is vital in any relationship and it ...
Read More49. Complaining
Complaining can erode away at your relationship. Here I talk about how to recognize if complaining is an issue in your ...
Read More48. Boundaries Part II
Here I revisit boundaries. This is a deep dive into the different types of boundaries and how to know what is ...
Read More47. Enmeshment
Enmeshment, differentiation, individuation, boundaries and codependency have been a part of my Mormon mixed faith marriage. They may be part of ...
Read More46. Talk with my Husband
Daniel and I sit down and talk frankly about our mixed faith marriage as we mark 5 years into my faith ...
Read More45. Interview with my 15 year old daughter
Listen to 15 yo Sage talk about her experience as a child in a mixed faith marriage. Sage was age 10/11 ...
Read More44. Codependency
Codependency shows up a lot in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. I used to think it didn’t apply to me because ...
Read More43. Anniversary – 4 Years of a Mixed Faith Marriage
It’s been four years since I stepped away from attending church. Here I share one HUGE lesson that helped me and ...
Read More42. 20/80 Rule
Here I teach the 20/80 rule. 20% of your time and budget should go to the fun and flashy things that ...
Read More41. 5 Go To Phrases for Better Communication
It can be super helpful to have some go to phrases in your back pocket to help with communication in your ...
Read More40. Interview with Beth Hinze
Beth is a fellow life coach who had a faith transition, mixed faith marriage and a divorce. Here we hear her ...
Read More39. Why a faith transition impacts your marriage
Here I explore some of the messaging in the church that may be impacting your mixed faith marriage in negative ways.
Read More38. Parenting – Do the kids stay home or go to church?
Here I explore the question whether to allow the kids to stay home or go to church. Often this simple question ...
Read More37. Direct Communication
Direct communication is one if the best ways to improve your communication and decrease resentment. Here I give you some ideas ...
Read More36. Divorce
I was taught divorce is not an option and believed that for many years. Here I discuss the pros and cons ...
Read More35. Four Horseman: Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness and Stonewalling
Marriage researcher John Gottman teaches about the four horsemen that herald a divorce. Here I share how I leaned to decrease ...
Read More34. Falling Into and Out of Love
Here I give you a three step process on how to fall in love again after a faith transition.
Read More33. Interview with Chris Rich
Here I talk to a colleague of mine – Chris Rich. We are both life coaches and both in a Mormon ...
Read More31. Emotional Adulthood and Emotional Childhood
Here I offer more detail around the concepts of emotional adulthood and emotional childhood. When you can step into emotional adulthood ...
Read More30. Relationship Goals
In this episode I teach you something from my group coaching program- Loving Your Mixed Faith Marriage. Here I walk you ...
Read More29. Commitment
Often people are interested in improving their marriage and interested in developing communication skills. However, commitment is often necessary to make ...
Read More28. Faith and Marriage
Here I talk with my sister about faith and marriage. She and her husband left the church and have a very ...
Read More27. Partnership
In this episode I talk about the partnership model versus petitioner model. I provide a definition of partnership and compare and ...
Read More26. How to Support Your Spouse
In this episode I talk about some common obstacles that prevent you from supporting your spouse from love and in a ...
Read More25. Love
Love feels so good. Sometimes we limit or put conditions on feeling amazing. Here I talk about conditional and unconditional love ...
Read More24. What Do You Believe About Mixed Faith Marriages?
Here I ask a series of questions to explore what you believe about your mixed faith marriage. Your brain is a ...
Read More23. Selfish
Selfishness is often at the root of many marriage problems. Here I challenge a common definition of selfish and suggest an ...
Read More22. Grief Cycle
A faith transition and a mixed faith marriage may cause you to feel grief and loss. Maybe you have experienced the ...
Read More21. Boundaries (Part I)
Boundaries can be an important part of a mixed faith marriage and participating in a mixed faith extended family. Here I ...
Read More20. Fear
In this short but important episode I talk about fear. Fear can present as a series of questions with very scary ...
Read More19. Being on the Same Page
I hear a lot that it is important to be on the same page in a marriage, especially in parenting. Here ...
Read More18. Passive Agressive
Acting in a passive aggressive way is unfortunately common in a mixed faith marriage. Here I tell you about common ways ...
Read More17. Phases of a Mixed Faith Marriage
There are often several phases that are part of a mixed faith marriage. Here I talk about the – Ignore it ...
Read More16. 10 Signs You Need Help Navigating Your Mixed Faith Marriage
Here I address 10 things that indicate you need help in your marriage. Often we put off getting help. An investment ...
Read More15. Foregiveness
Here I talk about how to deal with those painful things our spouse’s sometimes dish out to us in a mixed ...
Read More14. What Others’ Think
Many clients come to me with a deep concern around what others will think about their faith transition or their spouse’s ...
Read More13. Baptism (Baby Blessing, Ordination, Endowment, etc.)
If you are facing a baby blessing, baptism, ordination or other event you may be anxious or concerned about how to ...
Read More12 – Making Decisions
Making decisions in a mixed faith marriage can be painful- but it does not have to be. If you want to ...
Read More11. Difficult Conversations
This is part 2 of a 3 part series on communication. Here I share a tool that will help you succeed ...
Read More10. Talking About A Faith Transition With Your Spouse
There are a few things to consider when you talk to your spouse about your or their faith transition. This podcast ...
Read More9. Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame almost invariably show up in a mixed faith marriage whether you are the active believing spouse or the ...
Read More8. The Truth About Emotions
When faced with emotions in your mixed faith marriage there are a few ways you can respond. My recommendation is to ...
Read More7. People Pleasing
People pleasing is common in Mormon mixed faith marriages. It is one of the biggest blocks to emotional intimacy and causes ...
Read More6. When a Relationship Gets Challenging
We often default to certain roles when things get challenging in our mixed faith marriage. These roles may be undermining your ...
Read More5. Stress
If you believe a mixed faith marriage is hard and not ideal, you will most like experience a marriage that is ...
Read More4. Manuals
We often have a set of rules on how we think our spouse should act, speak, dress, think, believe, and show ...
Read More3. Art Of Being An Adult
If it feels like things are just happening to you in your mixed faith marriage it may be time to implement ...
Read More2. Emotions Matter
If you find your attempts to talk with your spouse about faith and religion are a train wreck, it may be ...
Read More1. Trying to Change Your Spouse
Do you wish your spouse would change (go to church/not go to church, read this/don’t read this, believe something/don’t believe something) ...
Read MoreParenting After a Faith Transition
I talk to my clients a lot about their kids. I am a marriage/relationship coach, but kids are often intertwined. Parenting ...
Read MoreNo Such Thing as a Perfect Marriage
My husband is like my favorite person in the whole world – I mean that is why I married him. He ...
Read MoreAnger
If you are in a mormon mixed faith marriage you have probably experienced anger (as it is part of the grief ...
Read MoreParenting and Communication
I have seen with my clients that parenting becomes a parenting vacuum when they think there is no common ground. They ...
Read MoreMess Ups
“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long ...
Read MoreParenting in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
I talk to my clients a lot about their kids. I am a marriage coach, but kids are often the result ...
Read MoreTug of War Over the Kids
In my own home and with my clients) a sort of tug of war to win the hearts and minds of ...
Read MoreWhen Your Spouse is Disappointed
I used to be uncomfortable with my spouse’s disappointment or anger or sadness. I used to think things like: -I can’t ...
Read More3 Tips for a Mixed Faith Marriage (Mormon or NOT)
I recently talked to a protestant (never mormon) friend and she was telling me about her daughter who was dating a ...
Read MoreTo Resign or Not Resign
Sometimes when a spouse steps away from the church this can take many forms. There is no one way. Here a ...
Read MoreParent’s Worst Fear
The worst fear of many parents is that their kids leave the church. It is sometimes the case in a mixed ...
Read MoreHome Study Course
Maybe you have been in a mixed faith marriage for a while, maybe it is brand new territory, in either case ...
Read MoreFear Based Decisions
I am so afraid so often. I am afraid of my husband being done with me and my faith transition. I ...
Read MoreHow to deal with your spouse teaching or talking about things that you do not agree with?
This usually comes up in the context of teaching about gospel topic such as the law of chastity, modesty, priesthood, leadership, ...
Read MoreAfraid of what others will think?
My ancestors are pioneers. We are talking about covered wagons traveling from Far West to Salt Lake City. My extended family ...
Read MoreWhat to do if your marriage has been neglected?
There was a time when we were so busy strengthening our family we forget to strengthen our marriage. The two are ...
Read MoreHow to influence you spouse (It’s not what you think)
In your marriages you may find you want to be able to influence your spouse. To be a someone they listen ...
Read MoreConnection after Disconnection
Here is what happened. We were disconnected all week. Something was off. I was pretty sure he hated me and I ...
Read MoreHierarchy v Partnership
Many marriages are built on a hierarchical model. It works for some people to a certain extent. It provides clear roles ...
Read MoreCommunication Tip
I want to give you a little tip on communication. One way to improve communication is to remove the obstacles to ...
Read MoreIt Takes Practice
The other day a YW leader came by to drop something off my my kids (as all YW leaders will do). ...
Read MoreMormon? Unitarian? Agnostic? Atheist?
A faith transition can mean many things for your marriage. Sometimes the transitioning spouse will keep attending church but just not ...
Read MoreSelfish
I think one of the single biggest fears we bring into our mixed faith marriage is that we are being SELFISH. ...
Read MoreChange and Progression
Are you someone who freezes when faced with change in your marriage. Often the response to change is – this can’t ...
Read MoreMarriage Remodel
We are in the middle of a huge and extensive remodel project of our house. We have a mid century modern ...
Read MorePainful Conversations
Do you keep on having the same painful conversations over and over about tithing or church history or cultural norms versus ...
Read MoreCHANGE: A faith transition means change
Change can be disorienting for both spouses. Here I want to talk about how to handle change whether you are the ...
Read MoreBlame and Responsibility
It is not uncommon you and me to blame our partners for our emotions and and not take responsibility for them. ...
Read MoreThis is so hard!
I don’t even know how many times I have told myself this about my mixed faith marriage. It is so hard ...
Read MoreNot an ideal marriage
Do you believe that a mixed faith marriage is not an ideal marriage? If you do, you are not alone. I ...
Read MoreHow to communicate without fighting
Does it seem like every time you talk about church it ends up in a fight? I had a client come ...
Read MoreWalking on Eggshells
I have heard from my clients that if feels like they are walking on eggshells when it comes to talking about ...
Read MoreHow to stay together when you don’t go to church together
I was raised being taught that it is better to marry someone in your religion. It is better to go to ...
Read MoreCOST of Doing Nothing
For so many of us – Nothing is more important than our family and the core of that family is our ...
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